Getting Closure From a Breakup
Getting Closure from a Breakup To Get Your Ex Back?
What is Closure? We define closure as steps taken to relieve the feelings of sadness, rejection, anger, and regret after a breakup. Typically, getting closure from a breakup comes from some form of communication with your ex, a breakup coach, friend, etc.
Sometimes getting closure is the best step to getting back with your ex, because it allows both people to clear the air and move on and it takes a huge load off the chests of both parties involved. With true clarity and past chapters really closed, the reconciliation process can begin. However, there is some serious downsides trying to obtain closure from your ex directly. Hurtful words can be had and it leads to more confusion and arguing.
We get calls all the time from clients asking us if they are engaging in “wishful thinking” in terms of getting back with their ex. In other words, should they simply go for closure to move on?
The answer of wanting closure to possibly reconcile clearly depends on your unique relationship situation and a few key factors:
1) How many times have you tried to contact your ex without a response, have they ‘ghosted’ you?
2) How long has it been since the initial breakup?
3) What was the reason for your breakup?
4) Has your ex been dating a new person and what is the history of that new relationship?
5) Will you be able to handle the pressures of open communication?
Based on your answers, formal closure and direct communication with your ex may be the best option for you or it may not be as optimal as giving yourself closure and allowing for your ex to contact you first.
We will talk about your options with getting closure and how it will impact your chances of reconciliation. When you call us we will review your relationship in detail to go over your unique predicament.