Your Relationship After a Breakup
Your relationship After a Breakup
Understand your relationship after a breakup will never be the same. It could end up much better and/or different, but not the same.
The Zoomonkey system teaches that, if you are to re-attract your ex, your ex must see that you respect the breakup, yourself and your ex’s wishes to end the relationship as it previously existed. Your ex is watching you to see if you are looking at your future and the present time with a new set of lenses as requested from the person who initiated the breakup. A laser focus on the past, according to your ex, will NOT be attractive at this point and needs to be avoided at all costs.
Your ex is watching you now in terms of how you handle this breakup perhaps more intensely than he or she did during the relationship, even if they are not responding to texts, phone calls or emails.
It’s called behavioral observance in the Zoomonkey system and behavioral observance is being practiced extensively by your ex during the first 30 days of your breakup period and then even more extensively during the first two weeks following the relationship reconciliation. The good news is that during the first behavioral observance phase, your job is to work on yourself and to refocus your energy and time on self improvement. You should always be completing this phase without engaging your ex in conversation or status updates on Facebook or otherwise. This component of relationship reconciliation, while sounding the simplest and easiest is actually the most difficult and unfortunately has the highest failure rate because you’re in a rush to show you changed without really doing so.
The idea behind self focus during the phase immediately after a breakup is to be able to give your ex space in the form of mental relaxation and affords you the ability to gear up for a new approach in starting the relationship fresh because in the past your relationship might have been beautiful in your head, but it is severely broken in the mind of your ex. Understand that life is about change and while you have the right to strive to be back in your old relationship, it is no longer there.
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