Became used to not seeing you at all during the last year?
Found someone else during quarantine?
Was used to casual communication with you during the pandemic and inadvertently slipped you into the friend zone?
Used this time to get over you and is now moving on for good?
Has decided during all of this alone time that they are better off being single for a while and might consider reconciliation at a later date?

           Reuniting After Covid-19 Lockdown?

If your ex became used to not seeing you during the lockdown, but you did a good job being scarce and not readily available at any moment on a dime, then your chances of reconciliation are good. As long your ex did most of the contacting and you get your ratios in check in terms of initiating / responding then you are in really good shape. When you call us we can clearly go over the optimal steps and best practices for reigniting the spark.

If your ex found someone else during quarantine via dating apps or social media, do not panic. It all depends on several factors.

Have they actually spent physical time together to measure each other out in terms of compatibility?

Have they simply used each other for emotional support, yet haven’t had a chance to test real compatibility?

Are they over compensating displays of affection to merely appear in love or smitten, when in reality it spells rebound?

Are there jealousy plays being made?

Is your ex also reaching out to you while supposedly in this new relationship or is your ex completely ignoring your outreach despite your approach?

All these questions and many more matter for reconciliation odds.

Love is a beautiful emotion and creates the strongest of energy. As the old adage states, the world itself may not rotate without it.
Our focus as ‘get your ex back coaches’ is solely to help you in the process of reuniting with your ex, but we don’t mind priming you with philosophical questions regarding love prior to coaching you to reach that goal of getting back together with your ex.

For instance, if love is so powerful, why are you now being denied this love by your ex? We know it’s because you are now split up, but what role did love have in this breakup? Didn’t your ex state their undying love for you at some point? How did it disappear? Weren’t you supposed to be in love unconditionally forever?

As we all know, this powerful force called love is not always unconditional and can be more fluid and tenuous than our mothers ever led us to believe. In fact, the love we project or receive, as it turns out, may not even be love at all (a distinction that is never for us to determine on a call but a distinction we challenge you to make reading this article.)
We don’t question our clients on this topic of true love, fake love, possessive love or power grabbing. We assume the love was neither real or fake because only two people involved with each other can truly determine such a state. However, we do know you want your ex back to continue the journey, and we do know the love you feel is ABSOLUTELY real from your perspective. We understand you are in love or you were in love and you aren’t pretending.

Re-attraction is necessary

The only way to reconcile with your ex is via re-attraction and our job is solely to help guide you on making the most attractive, strategic moves in reuniting with your ex. We don’t philosophize on the topic of true love on coaching calls. Ultimately, we don’t need to know the answers to these philosophical questions regarding love, but you are encouraged to reflect on your own: Did your ex ever truly love you back? Are you able to love yourself first? How dependent are you on your ex for this love? Does your ex owe you love forever?

In other words, maybe getting back together with your ex and maximizing your overall attractiveness will require you to reevaluate your attachment to this person in order to level the playing field and not cede so much emotional capital in the name of love. The name of the game is re-attraction. Re-igniting the spark, not replaying scenes from Hollywood romantic flicks that have nothing to do with your situation. (Silver Linings Playbook is a fantastic movie on this topic)

So is this magical force called love actually keeping you from reconciliation? We challenge you with these questions to prime you for coaching in terms of maximizing your odds for reuniting with your ex. You will be at a more advanced starting place with strategy sessions if you have at least reflected on these questions prior to calling us for individual coaching.

We don’t guarantee that you will get your ex back, but at a minimum we can tell you your odds based on many years of experience helping people all over the world re-attract their ex.

Break up coaching is different from formal counseling, because formal counseling is conducted by members of the psychiatric or psychological communities. Formal counseling after a breakup may or may not focus on one specific issue, but more of a myriad of issues you face in your life. This type of counseling also may or may not include meditation, talk of childhood, prescription medication, and clinical topics unrelated to your ex. We do not claim to replace formal counseling in any capacity nor do we claim to study any methods or practices conducted in formal counseling.

Break up coaching may be a bit more narrow than open ended, formal counseling, yet can also contain elements of life coaching and wider topics other than your break up. Break up coaching is beneficial for those who have a host of issues that pertain to their break up and they want to discuss how the issues impacted their break up and perhaps how they can change for future relationships.

Break up coaching also helps with getting over break ups and helps people productively move on from their last relationship. Break up support coaching can help a person delve into all aspects of themselves and their ex and help isolate or identify areas for improvement going forward. This type of coaching is something we often do with clients after they get an ex back and ultimately decide the relationship is still broken and irreparable, or if they decide the effort toward reconciliation is not worth the energy and mind space despite re-attraction moves being made.

What is Get your Ex Back Coaching ? Do I need a Get My Ex Back Coach?

A good get your ex back coach, using the ZooMonkey system specifically, focuses primarily on your ex since he or she is the audience we want to re-capture. The number one rule in sales is to know your prospects needs and desires. Sales? What does sales have to do with any of this? Exactly. You need a get your ex back coach if you are asking this question and want to reconcile. The break up happened. It is real. And you can’t use the same attitude and approach that you are accustomed to using since those methods have been proven ineffective.

Your needs and desires are actually subordinated during this type of coaching in order to maintain the proper emphasis on re-attracting your ex. If we coached based on your needs alone, the odds of getting your ex back significantly decrease. For example, posting on social media may be something you don’t often do or conversely, posting on social media may be something you are addicted to. Well, we will talk extensively on whether or not we can utilize this tool regardless of your needs. We would never encourage any play on social media be made that wasn’t comfortable and ever force or bulldoze you into making moves in any capacity. However, our focus in terms of suggesting such moves will be based around your ex’s perception despite your perception.

A better example would be frequency of contact. You may have the need to contact your ex all the time, and this need may very well work in concert to our strategy and tact. However, contacting your ex, despite your needs or desires, may be caustic toward reaching the quickest reconciliation.

Yes, we specialize in RECONCILIATION.  We help get your ex back.  We help coach you on the proper moves to make or the improper moves to avoid.  However, not everyone gets their ex back and once you are ready to actually move on we have a few observations and suggestions we can make in our experience helping people reconcile.  Ironically some of these steps also help in getting your ex back, whether you want this outcome or not.

Steps in getting over your ex:

1) Remove the Pedestal- In your mind, if you were the one that got broken up with, you have probably placed your ex on a higher “pedestal” than you had him or her on prior to the breakup.  This elevated sense of importance you are giving to them is not good for getting back together, nor is it good for your overall health.  You must understand and truly believe that you are every bit as valuable to this world as your ex .  In fact, if your ex feels that you have lowered yourself to sub-important, then your weaker outlook and attitude will be viewed as unattractive.  This is a hard thing to help since naturally your self esteem has indeed taken a beating.  We know a breakup can be hard on the ego.

2) Remember you are broken up for a reason –  Yes. You want your ex back badly, but like the old Rolling Stones tune says, “You can’t always get what you want…”   If the relationship was toxic and hazardous to your future, reach into your inner addiction and accept that the universe is not conspiring for you to be with this person.   Try to accept the real reasons for the breakup as hard as that may be.

Is Today The Day You Get Over Them?

3) Remove Fear of the Future-  Our clients’ number one fear is that they will not find someone that compares to their ex.  This lie gets repeated over and over in your head, but it is not mathematically possible.  If you only have one person on the brain, you must remind yourself that other people exist with different qualities, and perhaps better qualities. The soul mate theory that you keep repeating to yourself needs to be challenged, because your ex is not acting like your soul mate now.

4) Understand that you do not own your Ex- Visualize Them With Someone Else and be Ok with It.   If you could bop your ex on the head and drag them into your cave as a captive, would you ?  Well, if you answer yes to this question then you may need to consider professional medical counseling. We don’t own other human beings in the modern world.   Accept that your ex is not a criminal or a villain for breaking up with you.  They did not break any laws.   If you victimize yourself solely over a breakup, then you are not doing yourself any favors from a reconciliation perspective or from an inner personal perspective.

5) Evaluate Your Own Self Worth In the World- This one is cliche’ and tiresome, but very true.  Does your ex deserve you?  If you have tried everything, begged and pleaded and apologized, the answer should be no after a certain point, but only you can determine that point.

Monkey branching occurs when your boyfriend or girlfriend maintains the current relationship status with you for emotional support and companionship while simultaneously transitioning into a new relationship with someone else.

This person will breakup with you after he or she is secure in the new relationship. Similar to a monkey holding on to a branch with one hand while grasping another branch with the other hand, your boyfriend or girlfriend will swing to the new relationship leaving you empty handed while he or she does not experience any time being single or without the security of a branch in hand.

If anyone should know the answer to this question it would be Zoo Monkey based on our name alone. However, even if we were called something else we would still be very keen to this phenomenon as a get my ex back coaching company since we deal with the aftermath of the monkey branch daily.

What is the difference between being monkey branched or cheated on?

Being cheated on is the broader category that may or may not culminate in a breakup depending on both parties reaction to the cheating. Being monkey branched means you were cheated on and dumped and your ex is now in a new relationship. Both are extremely hurtful but the monkey branch tends to sting a tad more as a sub category of cheating.

Can I get my ex back if I was monkey branched?
Sometimes yes, but reconciliation depends on several factors that we must discuss since a million scenarios exist around this topic such as:
whether or not the new relationship was solely based on lust or revenge
The length of your relationship versus the length of the new relationship
The conditions surrounding the cheating- long distance, work related, etc.
Your reactions to the breakup
Your reactions to the discovery of the new person and your current behavior toward your ex
The overall health of your relationship when things were going well
Whether or not you too were cheating but not looking to monkey branch

When you reach out to us for a “what are my chances of getting me ex back” phone call, we will cover all these topics prior to issuing you an odds assessment for reconciliation. The first “what are my chances of getting my ex back phone coaching call” is conducted without a charge to you and typically takes 15 minutes. We conduct this phone call for our own purposes as much as for yourself since we don’t want to assign you a get my ex back coach or recommend get my ex back coaching without believing you have some decent odds of reconciliation with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

Whether you call us or not, a monkey branching situation is never fun and we hope you either move on peacefully which may be the best course of action or speak to someone who knows how to handle this common yet complicated situation with years of daily experience.

What about teaching yoga on TikTok? WAPping your heart out? Are you an expert on digital filters to look younger and sexier? Posing in a bikini with a bunch of men on a boat? Posting pics of you and your girlfriends at Dirt Bags taking tequila shots and having the time of your life? Are you bashing ‘narcissists’ all over Facebook with descriptive memes? Shouldn’t your ex hear through the grapevine that you know they are a pig? Have you found yourself educating the general public as to the perils of dating these treacherous animals?

As you know, we all post content online for the consumption of an invisible audience or for a specific individual. I want my ex back you say to yourself. I will do anything to get my ex back.

However, the bigger question remains:
Do any of these posts, pics or stories and messages and video clips and snap updates actually work to get your ex back?

Answer: Sometimes.

Do these methods ever ruin your chances forever with getting your ex back?

Yes. Sometimes.

The root concern is not social media. The root concern is not whether your pics are good or bad or whether you have gained or lost weight… The number one concern is the emotion created by your posts. Yes, this concept seems extremely obvious, but when you are going through a breakup, you are sideways and totally off kilter at times. Sometimes, we find, people lose their ability to use social media to their advantage after a breakup regardless of how they behaved on it during the relationship. We see it every day.

For example, if you are looking to make your ex jealous, then what better way to do so by posing in a bikini looking hot on a boat with a bunch of people? However, the real question is whether or not you need to make your ex jealous at this specific time?

What if your ex is the type that does indeed have the capacity to feel the intense emotions of jealousy, but is resolute and steadfast on never surrendering to this emotion? What if they are tired of feeling this emotion and are hellbent on overcoming it?

On the other hand, if they took you for granted and cheated on you, bingo, this jealousy thing will get them crawling back faster than any other tactic under the sun. These scenarios and situations must be examined individually. We have seen this play, jealousy, absolutely destroy people’s situation in getting back together with an ex and we have seen it work. Like so many other examples in the get your ex back game, your unique breakup and your unique situation dictates the efficacy of these type of plays.

What about going completely silent or dark across all platforms after a breakup? This tactic represents the other side of exhibitionism and plays on the voyeuristic side of social media. Some ex’s are extremely thirsty for intelligence on their ex and want to peak in the window on occasion (or every day). If you starve your ex of this sensation, it can very well create far greater attraction than feeding your ex with visual or mental illustrations. The insatiable desire for your ex to get information on you has been cut off with this “going dark” tactic and often times, leads to a reach-out by your ex faster than had you posted anything at all.

This article only addresses the two extremes of jealousy, exhibition and starving your ex of information, disallowing voyeurism. However, understand that when you call a get my ex back coach, we will go over at least 4 or 5 other major food groups that can be tapped via social medi, like creating subtle messages engendering mystery and intrigue without going to either extreme. For instance, news related posts, hobbyist type posts, narratives or special interest, hyperlocal media interests, etc. When you engage us with coaching, we will clearly share what we believe will work or fail based on your unique breakup and the personality profile of your ex you provide us.

Timing is everything

If your relationship was longer than 9 months and the new relationship is happening within a month of the breakup or less, then this ratio specifically, as an example, smacks of rebound. However, if your ex monkey branched, where he or she had this new person cued up (or worse involved with the new person) during the relationship then that is a different situation that may or may not lead to reconciliation. Your behavior through these different predicaments means everything.

If you show outward jealousy and are caught in the act of trying to sabotage this new relationship then you are doing yourself no favors. People (including your ex) want autonomy and independence in life decisions and freedom of choice in their decisions almost more than anything besides food, water and shelter. It’s a primal desire. If you are forcing yourself onto your ex in this situation, where there is someone else involved, then you are triggering the independence desire out of your ex which is stronger than the desire to be in a quality relationship.

In other words, even if your ex is only halfway into this new dude or lady, and you are barking down their neck for reconciliation or spitting jealousy, then your ex will stay in the current mode of breakup with the new person out of desire to show you that you can’t control the situation. It’s that bad. You can’t belittle yourself by showing jealousy and think it’s attractive at the same time. Remember the name of the game is to re-attract your ex, not sexually necessarily, but mentally and emotionally as well. Strength is always more attractive than insecurity.

There are a few different ways to handle a new relationship that we coach are clients to use depending on your unique situation, and one of these techniques that can be shockingly impactful and works well is actually complimenting the new person to your ex. But before you use this technique you have to set it up correctly or it can bomb. The setup must consist of your ex bringing up the topic amongst a few other requisites that are critical for success.

If your ex is bragging to everyone about how happy they are in a new relationship there is a massive chance it is false bravado or over compensation indicating the proverbial house of cards scenario. Your ex could also be baiting you into vulnerability and anguish by such antics, which may have the desired affect of feeding your ex’s ego or even worse an attempt to get your attention via negative stimulation. We know it’s not fun and sometimes the appropriate reaction may be to actually acknowledge the outward expressions from your ex regarding this new relationship subtly and sometimes it may be best to outright ignore all these social media posts and false advertising.

If your ex is making all this noise regarding their new relationship, yet still reaching out to you about anything at all, including logistical type inquiries, then our job in helping you reconcile is clearly a lot easier. If your ex is completely ignoring you and simultaneously advertising the “improvement” in life based on a new relationship, then we both have a little more work to do regarding the re-attraction process.

Now that you have acknowledged and accepted that you are OUTSIDE of the relationship, you don’t want to be like a wet dog with fleas scratching on the door looking for warmth and companionship even though you feel that way at the moment. You won’t be welcomed back.

You want to be the groomed, healthy golden retriever that gets invited inside to sit next to the fire in the living room with everyone while your new hosts take selfies with you. How can you reach this level?

You will absolutely need to play a few games to get in this position after a breakup. Depending on how angry and bitter and disenchanted your ex has become, you will need to ferociously fight your inner instincts as a non-game-player and step up to the plate, willing and open to play a few games which will help reboot attraction.

We aren’t referring to self help type activities (which can never hurt), we are talking about tactics and moves and plays to be made to get inside the mind of your ex in order to recapture some much needed attraction points. (Or walk away forever which is sometimes the absolute best course of action depending on your unique situation…depending on your choice, no one else’s)

Also, if you are wanting another chance with your ex and you feel the breakup was senseless and unnecessary, your ex should never realize that you are playing any sort of “get your ex back” game. Never.
You can’t get your ex back if your ex thinks you are playing a get your ex back game.

The number one rule in getting your ex back is for your ex to believe you can “take it or leave it” regarding any type of reconciliation. The most powerful person in any negotiation is the one that can most easily walk away. If your ex knows you are going through all these extrajudicial steps to get back, you have lost more power then ever and will lose.

In summation, after you have been released from a relationship (dumped), you will have to play high level psychological games without your ex realizing you are conducting a re-attraction campaign. Don’t worry, when you call us, we will go over every possible strategy and option within the ZooMonkey reconciliation system to get your ex back while maintaining this discretion. We’ve seen a million mistakes and have witnessed many magical moves in this game and are happy to discuss your options if we think we can help. Be prepared to disclose a few high level details on the “what are my chances” call with us before we recommend or dissuade you on coaching options. That first call is on us.

None of these reasons are your fault per sé. However, did the overall attraction disappear regardless of the physical component? Absolutely. If the overall attraction was in tact as it existed at the beginning of the relationship, then the breakup would not have occurred. Did you or your situation contribute in the downgrading of overall attraction? Yes. Absolutely. This distinction is subtle, but important.

You or your situation absolutely played a role in the depletion of overall attraction if the attraction was once there. However, apologizing is not always necessary and can create further loss. The key is not blaming yourself. This self blame can often times manifest itself in the form of gratuitous apologizing, begging and pleading, which is treacherous.

The important component is to identify where the original attraction occurred and why the attraction depleted. If the leak in attraction happened based on a reason that is insurmountable and exists despite any efforts you make, then the reconciliation will not occur. However, if you can figure out where or what was unattractive to the point of causing the breakup then you can possibly remedy this situation by illustrating behavior that more similarly mirrors how things were during the strongest parts of the relationship when mutual attraction was at its peak.

Our biggest challenge as breakup coaches is to help you identify where and when the attraction was the strongest and then help devise a plan to illustrate to your ex how these traits are still existent. We need to get back to the baseline attraction point that existed during the relationship even though you are indeed broken up.

Sometimes getting an ex back is not easy and some relationships do not reconcile despite best efforts. However, a lot of breakups do culminate in reunions with the proper, delicate and strategic approach maybe the outward expressions of undying love after a breakup is creating harm and greater inequity based on the asymmetrical nature of your situation and only extinguishing any potential spark?

Show Your Dignity

1) Your ex will treat you like a doormat if you act like a doormat. You will not be able to change the structure in this manner.  Do not allow your anxiety and regret to subordinate you into a wet, stray gorilla. Be a lion or lioness in the eyes of your ex. You can cry and mope in private of course since you are human, but in front of your ex these behaviors are ugly if you are looking to reconcile.

2) Your ex will immediately devalue you as a prospect if you elevate your ex to a ridiculously high level where you can’t live without them.  We know you actually feel this way, and we know that these feelings are intense, but if your ex catches wind of your feelings then this will be detrimental to them wanting reconciliation.

3) Jealousy. Don’t demonstrate jealousy in any regard to your ex or to mutual friends. We know that jealousy is a real emotion and is extremely hard to suppress, however, you are not holding on to your personal power at all by illustrating this emotion outwardly to anyone, especially your ex.

4) Don’t allow for your ex to draw you into long conversations after a breakup. It will only lead to confusion. We see this power depleting move occur daily on our breakup coaching calls. It is a common problem that messes up your chances for reconciliation in a big way. 

Is it time to move on??

You Should Move On From Your Ex:

1) You should move on from your ex when they have repeatedly asked you to stay away and don’t contact them again with zero room for interpretation. They may change their mind later, but for right now that is the clearest sign they need their space. 

2) It is time to move on when many months have gone by and your ex is still not responsive to your simplest or kindest acts of reaching out, also known as ‘ghosting’, they are making it clear they have lost interest.

3) When your ex is living with someone else, engaged or otherwise committed to someone else, we understand it is tough, but you need to let them go. 

Still, the question whether or not to completely give up on your ex depends on your unique situation, and it is often best to have an outsiders perspective. Though we can’t promise your ideal outcome, we have experience in all types of relationship scenarios and are happy to listen and help guide you through tried and true methods used in the process of reattraction.

Please feel free to call 888-666-1871 to discuss your true chances of reconciliation.

Yes. I got you back from calling a  breakup coach… Just don’t tell anyone.

Yes. We are a real company. We serve a very impressive, wide ranging client base.  Heart break is human, universal, and very much a pain to deal with alone. It doesn’t discriminate.  If you want your ex back and you’re the vice president of Zimbabwe, you too, should call us. To date, we have served a wide spectrum of society members. Here is only a small example of our market:

Government Officials

Pop Musicians

Police Officers

Special Agents

Cheerleaders

Models

Lawyers

Counselors

Doctors

College Students

Farmers

Engineers

Architects

Airline Pilots

Canadians, Europeans, New Zealanders, Australians, Americans, Brazilians etc.

and everywhere in between.

ANYONE 18 AND OVER THAT WANTS TO STRATEGIZE ABOUT GETTING THEIR EX BACK AND/OR TALK ABOUT THEIR BREAKUP.

Narcissistic Relationship

Is My Ex A Narcissist?

Before you start labeling your ex with characterizations like psychopath, sociopath, borderline personality, and yes, the most popular among our female clients, narcissist, you should realize that you may be in a situation where your ex just doesn’t care right now.  It’s like eating rat poison and expecting the rat to die.

All these labels may be applicable to your ex, but either way, the act of hurling names publicly can also hurt your chances to reconcile in more ways than one.  If your ex is under the heavy influence of hatred, bitterness, and scorn, there is little you can do until they remove themselves from the influence of others and your own negative attitude.

When your ex is not responding under the most reasonable requests to communicate, your ex is either still under the influence of serious negativity from others and will not budge without time to truly sort out their thoughts by themselves, or they just might be a narcissist.

Truly being a narcissist or sociopath in the most extreme cases we typically coach strong no contact and sometimes extended no contact rules. After a certain amount of time, if  your ex is still not responding and ignoring you altogether then we strongly encourage our clients to move on and accept that the relationship was not meant to be.

It is the saddest of predicaments, but unfortunately is a real scenario. Because each relationship is unique, if you need further help to discern the difference between an ex that simply wants space and if your ex is a true narcissist give us a call.

Remember, just because your ex is showing no feelings toward you today doesn’t mean they are a narcissist. They can still care about you, just not at the moment.

You are here

Most of our clients confide in us that they have reached out to an ex’s friends for advice prior to speaking with one of our coaches for strategic and proper framing.

For example: John, the police officer, knows that his ex girlfriend’s boss goes to a specific bar after work every day and has met this individual a few different times when he was dating Cathy, his ex. He is comfortable with this person and is at ease speaking to her based on several past interactions.

What does John proceed to do? You guessed it. John uses his detective skills by coincidentally going to this exact watering hole where he conveniently gets to ask all about Cathy’s behavior, attitude, disposition, bathroom break patterns, cell phone use and attendance to work functions.

“Oh no”, John is ‘over’ Cathy, as he adamantly proclaims to the boss. He is simply “curious” he says.

Yeah right!

How could this be an effective strategy? It’s not. It’s disastrous!

Stop asking questions about your ex. The number one rule is often not giving your ex (or anyone else) the inside intelligence that you want to reconcile.

People want what they can’t have, and your ex will never respect you or become re-attracted if he or she thinks you are ready and available at any given time. You may think it’s wise to position yourself as a safe place to land once your ex realizes the error of their ways, but in reality, the landing pad you have established never gets used. You will be the side B forever if you debase yourself to this level. You want to be the only place for your ex to go, not a safe landing pad. You need to be side A.

Granted, any casual observer understands that this type of behavior as described above. John is clearly in a losing proposition no matter how you slice it, but many lesser degrees exist along these same lines that deliver equal negative results. Almost every other call we get involves some sort of contacting friends for advice.

What about going to your ex’s family? Their sister that promises not to say a word to your ex no matter what you two discuss? It depends.

What about your ex’s mother? Never. (Ok, almost never, exceptions do exist.)

What about a common friend that you trust and has always been your advocate? Believe it or not… it still depends. Sometimes benevolent third party advocates can actually do more damage without realizing it. Your proper framing needs to be discussed prior to confiding or disclosing your thoughts to any third party.

We see using friends for advice create lots of damage prior to calling us. Yet we have also seen great success with using inside information provided by them help us in reuniting couples well. We need to discuss your specific situation as everyone is different, and leverage any advantage to your disposal. This can make or break any reconciliation and is often overlooked.

Facebook. It’s all how you use it.

If your ex is not on Facebook, don’t assume they are not able to see your updates, even if you have restrictions set accordingly, they more than likely have people on your friends list keeping tabs on you.

When you call us, we will walk you through some proven Facebook techniques to re-attract your ex without them even knowing you are considering reconciling with them.

Every situation is unique, so when you call us, we will review in more detail your personal situation and go over the specific tact to take for getting your ex back with the help of Facebook and other online social networking sites.  We will customize your approach specifically to your needs and your history with your ex.

Here are a few basic tips for Getting Your Ex Back Using Facebook, but we do not recommend making any moves without calling us first.

1) Your Profile Picture: Change it after the breakup!  We see all kinds of disastrous approaches on the profile pic front. Choosing an irrelevant picture to you and the breakup is best.

2)  Updates: Don’t go sappy and don’t go too positive.  Keep things relatively neutral with a lean on the positive. Good humor and wit is always a great way to go, but don’t make it obvious that you are trying too hard.  Also, monitor your frequency of updates. 

3) Pictures: Do not post pics of you with anybody directly after a breakup. Your ex could get more angry and that can be harmful in your chances of reconciliation.

4) Un-friending/Blocking your ex:  This is a tricky one.  Never block your ex. Un-friending can sometimes be great, depending on the situation.

Remember, if you or your ex is active on any social media apps a quick call to us for some specialized help will be extremely beneficial.

Get Closure No Matter What

What is Closure? We define closure as steps taken to relieve the feelings of sadness, rejection, anger, and regret after a breakup. Typically, getting closure from a breakup comes from some form of communication with your ex, a breakup coach, friend, etc.

Sometimes getting closure is the best step to getting back with your ex, because it allows both people to clear the air and move on and it takes a huge load off the chests of both parties involved.  With true clarity and past chapters really closed, the reconciliation process can begin.  However, there is some serious downsides trying to obtain closure from your ex directly. Hurtful words can be had and it leads to more confusion and arguing.

We get calls all the time from clients asking us if they are engaging in “wishful thinking” in terms of getting back with their ex.  In other words, should they simply go for closure to move on?

The answer of wanting closure to possibly reconcile clearly depends on your unique relationship situation and a few key factors:

1) How many times have you tried to contact your ex without a response, have they ‘ghosted’ you?

2) How long has it been since the initial breakup?

3) What was the reason for your breakup?

4) Has your ex been dating a new person and what is the history of that new relationship?

5) Will you be able to handle the pressures of open communication?

Based on your answers, formal closure and direct communication with your ex may be the best option for you or it may not be as optimal as giving yourself closure and allowing for your ex to contact you first.

We will talk about your options with getting closure and how it will impact your chances of reconciliation. When you call us we will review your relationship in detail to go over your unique predicament.

Some people are indifferent and find moving on to someone new as quickly as possible their best solution. Others need a little time to work it out with themselves and some need more chances with their ex to try and make the relationship right. Regardless, they are all a coping process.
Answering the Coping Questions below will help you discover how you are truly recovering from your breakup. Need help finding your answers or want to talk them over? Call us to review your answers and discuss how you are coping. 

Coping With A Breakup Can Be Hard!

We know most of these questions can be tough, but this exercise is valuable. Take your time and be honest with yourself.

1) I feel the most like myself when:

2) I feel the happiest when:

3) In five years I plan to be:

4) The main thing I love about my ex is:

5) I enjoyed being with my ex most when: 

6) Coping with this breakup is becoming more difficult or easier because:

7) The goals I want to accomplish most in life are:

8) I feel most complete when:

9) I believe in the relationship concept(s) of:

10) What I find most attractive in other people is:

11) I get angriest when I am:

12) I feel most at peace when I:

13) I feel weakest when:

14) My favorite feature I have is:

15) My best character trait is:

We hope you found answering these Coping Questions beneficial. How Do You Feel? Give us a call now to further discuss how you are handling your breakup and what it will take to get your ex back.

Every breakup is unique. When you call us we help you decide where you are in the breakup process and what your next moves in reconciliation should be.
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             Will my ex come back?

Welcome! You’ve come to the right place. “What are the chaces of getting my ex back?” is our most asked question. Everybody wants reassurance things will work out in their favor. We can’t promise anything, but we know your chances of getting your ex back are dependant on three factors:

1) The length of the relationship effects your odds for reconciliation, but this factor does not effect your chances as greatly as the other two factors. Even though it is listed as number one, it is actually weighed as lowest of importance.

2) The type of breakup matters, was it: Situational, Planned/Orchastrated (read up on Monkey Branching here) or was the breakup incidental? 

3) The ultimate reason/s for the breakup effects your chances, too.

Call Zoo Monkey for your first free call. When you do, we will ask detailed questions pertaining to all three of these factors for a deep assessment, because the likelihood of you getting back together with your ex is also influenced by a ‘hidden fourth factor’. That is, your ability to be coached. How you handle coaching is totally important in increasing your chances of reconciliation with your ex.

All breakups are unique. It is best to get advice from an outside perspective. When you call us, we will help you decide where you are in your breakup process.

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Sex With Your Ex- Proceed With Caution

If you have the option (which most do NOT) or if you are considering sleeping with your ex after an official breakup and you want to get back together, there are general rules to follow. It all depends on your situation and the benefits versus cost in terms of reconciling.

Call us before you go any farther because sex is powerful and it may be the difference between reconciliation and even more damage. 

Sex with Your Ex Girlfriend

If your ex is a woman, sleeping with her can be beneficial to getting back together with her in a huge way.

Not always, but as a general rule, women are more emotionally connected as a whole to men once they commit to sex with them, and so it has more impact in a positive way in re-attraction. However, if the breakup is recent and they are just looking for a quickie it will most likely backfire.

 Sex With Your Ex Boyfriend 

If your ex is a man, sleeping with him is not a good idea.

Unfortunately, men need to be forced to work harder for sex and if you give it to them after a breakup too easily, you are lowering your odds of reconciliation.  As a general rule, it is not a good idea to have sex with your ex boyfriend, but it can be very good at the later stages of the reconciliation process.  Call us to discuss your unique situation and we can advise you with the best options.

Sleeping with a Rebound While Trying to Get Back with Your Ex?

That’s a real sticky situation.  Make sure your ex does not find out, regardless of gender. You may ‘need to’ do this and it actually could be amazing for you by helping get your mojo back, but it is not always a good idea. Your friends will ALL be telling you it is a GREAT IDEA, but it won’t help with reconciliation and getting your ex back when the sex is flaunted and used to cultivate jealousy.

When you call us, we will help you decide where you are in the breakup process.  1-888-666-1871

Questions you’re most likely asking yourself: Is reconciliation with my ex possible, do people really reconcile with their ex by following a coaching system?
Why shouldn’t I just follow my gut instincts of telling my ex everything I need to say, and then see where the chips fall?

It is possible to reconcile with your ex

The answers to these questions are very straight forward: Yes, it is possible to get your ex back using a coaching system. Yes, it is possible to reconcile if the factors exist and you are willing to ‘play the game’ without cracking. We believe that getting your ex back is NOT for everyone. Some relationships are broken for a reason and more importantly, some individuals are justified in not wanting their ex back. We only coach people who can mentally handle the game and who really want to reconcile with their ex. We NEVER convince people to get their ex back. We only coach them once they choose to call us and opt for what we think are the most effective methods.

Yes, it is also perfectly okay to get psychological closure, move on from your ex and disregard any advice given by us or anyone else at any time.

Every breakup is unique. When you call us, we will help you decide where you are in your breakup process. 1-888-666-1871