Everyone at some point asks themselves, why did we breakup? Was it really that argument over not returning a text fast enough? Most likely it wasn’t.

Losing attraction is not always physical

Without obsessing too much or beating yourself up over the breakup, understand that the breakup should serve as a personal wake-up call as to who you attract and what you want to attract in the future. It should trigger value questions such as, what do I have to offer in a relationship?

Understand that breakups don’t exist in a vacuum, that they occur for certain reasons. You need to explore, based on the zoomonkey system of re- attraction and reconciliation, the actual causes of the breakup, while also understanding that we as human beings don’t know what we don’t know, and that our explanations are only a portion of the overall reasoning for breakups. Never think that your understanding of the breakup represents the entire picture. This misreading of the breakup will hinder most chances for re-attraction in the form of meaningless apologies, errant excuses and unnessecary admissions of weaknesses.

Ultimately, most breakups occur due to lack of attraction, not just physical, but overall attraction. For instance, if someone is not responsible in the relationship, then this is viewed as unattractive by the other after time. If someone is too needy in the relationship, it’s the same way.

The responsibility is on you to dissect the real factors that led to the ultimate lack of attraction and start the work on improvement. However, don’t put too much stock in your assessment because we find a lot of the time people are just flat out wrong.
That is why we are here to help.

When you call us, we will help you decide where you are in your breakup process.

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