Merriam Webster dictionary defines Unrequited as: Not reciprocated or returned in kind. (Unrequited Love)

You will get through this.

In some unrequited love situations the beloved may not be aware of the admirer’s strong romantic affections. A breakup is different.

A breakup can be one of the hardest pyschological circumstance a person faces in their lifetime.  The hard-wired human desire to reconcile and get back together with the one they love can be insatiable and as hard to overcome as any severe addiction; physical or otherwise.  After a breakup, you may find yourself desparately missing your ex and wanting them back. Unfortunately, you more than likely will be faced with an unrequited love scenerio. The expressions of love you show not being returned now. You may want your ex back with all your heart.  But you are needing to face the reality of no longer simply calling your ex for friendly conversation or to make plans for the weekend. In fact, your options are limited after a breakup, because a breakup is a request by one person in the relationship to disengage from the relationship altogether.

What should you do to reconcile with your ex? According to the ZooMonkey principles, you need to follow the steps of re-attraction.

When you call us, we will happily help guide you through your breakup process. 1-888-666-1871

Ok, so you are finished with the “no contact” period or the “limited contact” period and you want to know the best strategy to contact your ex .

Look for emotional strategy sessions with your ZooMonkey Coach.

Well first, there are three key things you want to avoid when contacting your ex if you are looking for sound emotional strategy.

1) Avoid any negative emotional topic- don’t emerge from the no contact period with immediate references to the past breakup or past arguments.  This is a psychological trap because you may want to start out with another apology or you think it is ok since time has gone by to bring up something you may have done “wrong”.  Do not do this.  Do not bring up negative emotional topics, ie: past arguments, past issues, or any past issue with a hint of negativity.

2) Do not expect an immediate return from your ex and do not react when a return does not come your way.

Yes. Setting emotional expectations is a part of strategy.

Your ex will not always act the way you want him or her to act.  If you react adversely, you will trigger a horrible result and will put yourself right back into a no contact period potentially.  (the topic of how to handle a “no response” is covered on other posts). Do not ask for a response from your ex either.  This is a good time to see where you really are in the reconciliation process.

3) Do NOT contact your ex, regardless of how much time has passed, if you are NOT emotionally prepared to be calm, cool and collected.  Your ex is tired of the drama and is unattracted to the drama.  Have a plan and a purpose and make sure you are emotionally capable to execute your plan.  Do not text your ex, “i have missed you all this time…how are you..?”  Showing your “hand” like this is not good strategy because we need to utilize the element of surprise. First of all it is too emotionally filled and not light enough. Secondly, it does not carry any psychological punch that is impactful.  When you contact your ex, avoid non impactful texts that are really a waste of ammunition.

Emotional Strategy is important and can be the difference between getting your ex back or not.

As always, feel free to comment on this information below as we always like hearing your thoughts.

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We are here to help you with strategy.-Phil Richman

Are you in the friend zone my super friendly, hero man? Come give me a kiss my sweet zoo monkey.

Have you ever wondered if you were too friendly with your ex or if you were trapped into a friend zone and no longer a romantic prospect? It’s a tricky situation that I coach on all the time in terms of dealing with your ex and contacting your ex.

Losing contact with your ex is

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