Getting Power Back In Your Relationship

Phil — Sun, 23 Sep 2012 16:54:53 +0000

Getting Power Back In Your Relationship takes showing your ex you have some dignity. Relationship equality is something we teach at ZooMonkey with great passion. It is important when getting your ex back that you don’t relinquish all the power. Of course your ex may have all the power at first, but this power structure can change very quickly if you make the proper moves.

1) Your ex will treat you like a doormat if you act like a doormat. You will not be able to change the structure in this manner. Do not allow your anxiety and regret to subordinate you into a wet, stray gorilla. Be a lion or lioness in the eyes of your ex. You can cry and mope in private of course since you are human, but in front of your ex these behaviors are ugly if you are looking to reconcile.

2) Your ex will immediately devalue you as a prospect if you elevate your ex to a ridiculously high level where you can’t live without them. We know you actually feel this way, and we know that these feelings are intense, but if your ex catches wind of your feelings then this will be detrimental to them wanting reconciliation.

3) Jealousy. Don’t demonstrate jealousy in any regard to your ex or to mutual friends. We know that jealousy is a real emotion and is extremely hard to suppress, however, you are not holding on to your personal power at all by illustrating this emotion outwardly to anyone, especially your ex.

4) Don’t allow for your ex to draw you into long conversations after a breakup. It will only lead to confusion. We see this power depleting move occur daily on our breakup coaching calls. It is a common problem that messes up your chances for reconciliation in a big way.