The Cause of Most Breakups | “Why did we breakup?” | Lack of Attraction

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Did you lose your attraction?


Losing Attraction is NOT just physical. (in fact, the sex could be great but the breakup could still happen.)


Without obsessing too much or beating yourself up over the breakup, understand that the breakup should serve as a personal wake-up call as to who you attract and what you want to attract in the future and should trigger value questions such as what you have to offer in any relationship. Understand that breakups don’t exist in a vacum and they occur for reasons.  You need to discern, based on the zoomonkey system of re- attraction and reconciliation, the actual causes of the breakup while also understanding that we human beings, don’t know what we don’t know, and that our explanations are only a portion of the overall reason. Never think that your understanding of the breakup represents the entire picture as this misreading of the breakup will hinder most chances for re-attraction in the form of off base apologies, errant excuses and unnessecary admissions of weaknesses and misgivings.

Ultimately, most breakups occur due to overall lack of attraction, not just physical but overall attraction.  For instance, if someone was not responsible in the relationship, then this was viewed as unattractive.  If someone was too needy in a relationship, same thing.

The responsibilty is on you to disect the real factors that led to the ultimate lack of attraction.

Remember, however, not to put too much stock in your assesment as we find a lot of times people are just flat out wrong. Attraction is a broad term .

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